W goes off to her sister's last night, presumably to talk about the D. A couple of hours later I get a text from her saying she's going to be staying later than she originally thought and that she'll be home around midnight. Because one of her complaints has been that I don't respond to her texts, I waited 5/10 minutes and then answered back with a simple "ok" (180's: responding to texts and not asking anything else about her plans/what she's doing). About 15 min later I get another text from her, this time a photo of W and sis in front of the firepit. Waited a few again and then responded that it was a sweet photo. She sent another pic of them a couple of minutes later and I responded with a smiley face emoticon.
Two things are notable here and part of me wants to speculate even though from a DB perspective I know I shouldn't. One is that W texted me to let me know what her plan was. A huge complaint of mine for the past 6 months or so has been her going out without ever keeping touch to let me know what her plans are and specifically when she thought she'd be clear. She's always been free to pretty much do what she wants when she wants; I always wanted what I felt like was a minimum, baseline level of respect/consideration of her letting me know the basic where's and when's of her plans. For the past 6 months or so it's been like pulling teeth to get her to do that, but ever since the bomb drop and I started DBing there's been a huge turnaround on her part regarding that.
The other thing I think is notable is that she actually came home at the time she said she would, because again this is a turnaround for her. Previously if she gave me a come-home time she almost never stuck to it, but now she has been.
I don't know if there's any relevance to those two things, but I appreciate them regardless.
One thing I think is strange though is that W would go to her sisters to talk about our sitch, and then spend any amount of time sending me pics of the two of them. Just seems kind of weird to me, like "I told stumps I want a divorce...hey, let's send him a couple of quick pics of the two of us..."
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
