Spouse tried I didn't, now opposite

[whytry]

Thanks Paul. I know you're right and my frustration is knowing how hard my spouse tried and I now see how much time and effort they devoted to us. The light bulb came on so to speak from what my spouse did and I know I owe so much to the help they received from the people here that give solid advice and amazing encouragement. It hurts to know and live with the pain I caused them.