I also need to add None of our friends and family saw this coming, it absolutely rocked our world to the core. Her brother, with whom she is very close, expressed that he was in disbelief that this would happen to us, he said if he had been given a list of 10 couples one of which might split up and was asked to choose he would be shocked that we might even be on the list at all. One of her closest friends said that she just did not see this coming, she knows all about the past and knows my W very well and actually expressed the opinion that she had 'lost the plot' she was just gobsmaked by what has happened and can't seem to understand what is going on in my W head. So much so that she has backed off from her as she struggles to understand her now. When I am in my W company she seems to be a million miles away, talking to her is like talking to a ghost sometimes as I get the feeling she isn't really engaging, its so hard to explain.
