Thanks for the suggestions Starsky. H and I had another R conversation last night and I think I handled things okay.
First, we talked about H changing his phone number. He hesitated at first mentioning it was his business phone, he's had the same number for years, he doesn't want to lose his business contacts, etc. I told him it was his decision but it leaves the door open for OW to contact him again and how he handles that could be a determining factor on how our M progresses. A few moments of silence then H said he was going to call the carrier to find out what he needs to do to keep his contacts and get a new number.
Secondly,(expressed w/love & kindness yet firm)I explained to H that because of the recent incidents, resuming life as is will not be as easy. Both of us will need to work on the R and He will need to show acts of continued commitment. I told him that I appreciate all of the reassuring comments however I will need to see these changes through his actions on a consistent basis. He said that he understood and that is what his plans to.
