Hey big guy b easy on yourself. You should pat yourself in the back for being hopeful all this time. I have a head start on you. I decided the day we got divorced thst the door was closed. It helped me heal. Im still healing. Its been 3 years for me and I still fantasize. That exw will send an email begging to come back or crawl herself on her knees and beg. They are anger and hurt fantasies. Because I woulndt go back. I really dont wish ill on her. It would hurt my D and it is not who I am.
So......
You need to decide
To let her go in your heart and brain
Or
Hold on
its funny rick...but I'm much earlier than you but feel the same. W is hurtful to my kids (not all...but 2 of 3)still I wish she'd regret it or try to come back sometimes
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14