I got home from work today and there was a book left on the porch, it is one of my W's that someone was returning. I open the front cover and written in it is "Bitch, C@nt, sh@t for a mother, go to hell, your life will be living hell, you have ruined your family tree, hope your husband throws you out"
This has me feeling quite upset. I don't know who left it or if they assume my W lives at home still or they wanted me to find it. This seems to point to a high possibility of an A and it has me feeling sick. I know there were rumors that she had cheated on me flying around work, but I never put much stock into it. That is the normal rumor up there for many people when others are mad at them.
This was the one thing that I never had to confront or think about because of the respect I thought we had for each other. I am sure every spouse that has been cheated on felt this way though.
Next Thursday we were supposed to have dinner together. Don't know if I should confront her about it then, or some other time, or never. Need some advice on this one.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
I would say, "W, is there anything you need to tell me?" while you show her those comments. Sit quietly and listen. And do this in a public place like a park...not at home.
I wouldn't go out to dinner with W at all.
Then you can say, "We cannot be friends when there's a third party in this marriage. When you're done with the OM, I'd be open to your efforts at repairing the damage. I'd have to see your actions. Until you've cut ties with the OM, do not contact me at all."
