We were always one of those couples that everyone knew I was dedicated to her and the kids. The trouble started when W grandfather died (only stable male influence in her life after her dad left). At the same time her dad told her he wanted to "make up" for all the bad he had done but only if she left me as he thought she was wasting her life as a stay at home mom. When I went up a couple weeks later he had a dinner party for her and came to me before and said there was no room for me or our 7 year old and we shouldn't "bother" them at their party. There were a dozen people and the only ones he excluded were me and his granddaughter! That was almost 8 years ago. He has been pushing her to leave me and her kids since and now that my wife is in MLC she is listening. The reason she got depressed was him telling her ( she was diagnosed a couple months after getting back from GF fruneral).
The reason she gave me for wanting out of marriage was something that happened 20 years ago! After a few days that went away and it was because she doesn't love me the "right" way. Even she admits I've been an excellent husband and father. She just "can't help" she doesn't love me the proper way!
I know I wasn't perfect but I was a very good husband. Too good actually as I became too much Mr Nice Guy. That is my biggest crime as a husband. My wife is going thru this MLC because of the crap her dad put her and her mom thru after the divorce. She has had trust issues ever since and tested me hard before we were married. So while I wasn't perfect, I KNOW if her dad wasn't in the picture this wouldn't be happening.
