Thanks guys. I had a thought last night that I should buy a large notebook, head down to the park and think, write and relax. I feel I should be getting all of this stuff better by now but between people here and my wife there's a lot of layers being peeled back. As confused as I am about a lot of things, I am very thankful that my wife has participated in exposing my flaws, even if she's only doing it as standing up for herself, than shutting down and withdrawing like she used to.
As for the compliments, two people have suggested it now so that outweighs the one (me) who is unsure of it so I'll give it a go. Some compliments are easy; my wife made an amazing spaghetti last night and my son and I were genuinely heaping praise on her... and going back for seconds
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
