Need help saving my family - part 10

[Scorp7]

What advice am I not taking???????? I am filing for D and likely getting a interim custody order asap. What else is it you all think I can do?

I've been very close to calling it a day with this site for some time now. Being told I don't know my own situation by people that only know a very tiny amount of what's going on (you only know what I've posted here, I get that) is kinda crazy.

If I had more time I would write a book about my entire relationship with my wife, our kids and everything that's happened over the last 6 months, unfortunately I don't have that time. I know you all have been through the ringer with your own situations and have helped others with theirs, EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT. My heart goes out to all of you for the hell you've been through and I appreciate you trying to help me with my own hell.

I will say this one more time....

The police will do NOTHING unless I have a court order. Taking my kids to another province is NOT KIDNAPPING. The police can only enforce a court order, nothing else! IF my wife took our kids out of the COUNTRY, then it would be kidnapping. SHE HAS NOT DONE THAT. The police will do nothing about my W's : listening to phone calls, denying me access to my kids, dictating the terms of my time with the kids etc etc etc without a court order.

My wife planned her exit with the help of a lawyer for close to a YEAR before she left. Do you really think she would have done what she did if she thought all I had to do was pick up the phone and force the kids to come home????????

One more time... my wife made the CHARGE AGAINST ME SO SHE COULD LEAVE LIKE SHE DID. Have none of you heard of someone making a claim against someone else that wasn't true?!?!?!? She said I threatened her during an argument SIX MONTHS before she made the charge. It's sad but true that's all it takes to have a husband arrested, someone that has no prior record and a marriage that had ZERO history of any kind of incidents. I agreed to a peace bond with my wife because I could not risk a judge deciding to believe my wife's story and find me guilty. There was only a very small chance of that happening, if it had happened my life would have been over. No career, no kids, done. Worth fighting the charge to take that chance?

Did I make mistakes in my situation? ABSOLUTELY! I didn't find the DB/DR books until after Christmas and I made every bad mistake talked about in the books before then. I still have made a few errors here and there. The past is the past. I've learned from it and I continue to learn.

I'm doing what I can in the best interests of my kids and myself. Dragging my kids home, pulling them out of their current schools etc would put them through more hell and make me look like an irresponsible parent. I've been advised by three lawyers to now take this action, otherwise I very well may have done it. I do not want to D my W. I feel my kids deserve and need both parents. No matter what I feel about D filing became necessary to ensure I don't further risk my time with my kids.

I do appreciate the input you have all given. I think I've heeded the advice you all have given me. I may not have filed for D or have taken the action I have with my L had I not taken your advice. Having said that, hearing about how foolish I've been for not doing this or that does not help. This site has been a useful tool in my situation, the second it becomes more pain than it's worth is the second I call it a day here.