Thanks Sandi, I really appreciate the kind words. I spent a few hours with one of my best friends yesterday who is very wise. He really helped me sort out some things in my head and I felt better. Then I went alone to my counselling and again this helped. Of course then whem I went home ( she was babysitiing, her own children!!!) we had a conversation that went like this. Me.' I need to do something next Tuesday evening, can you have the boys overnight?' Her. ' I don't think I have anything on, yeah should be fine' Me.' Ok, I might also need you from time to time to have them on overnight stays as I am very tired and I need a break' Her. ' Well I hope you're not going to just spring it on me, I might have a hairdressing appointment or something so don't be just springing it on me' Me. ' To be honest I would think your boys take priority over a hairdressing appointment' Her. 'Stop being an a...ole'
Unbelievable She barely sees the boys ( although she disagrees and thinks she sees them loads) and yet as soon as I suggest her having them extra she goes nuts. She only keeps them overnight on alternate Saturdays so shy is she being so selfish, I'm baffled. Anyway, she has now said she wants to go to MC with me next week. She wanted to go back on her own but its my counsellor and he said he would only see her after a joint session and in the context of our relationship whether its survives or not. I though she would refuse but she agreed??? So we are going together next week...Jesus Wept!!!
