Need help saving my family - part 10

[Scorp7]

You say you still love her and want to reconcile – yet your actions are to file for divorce.

I gave my W six months to try to work things out. I do not want to file for D, I do want to R. To ensure my kids have their father I needed to file for D, that is the only reason I am doing it. There is always a possibility my W and I could R even after a D is final. Worrying about a R can't dictate my actions with my kids.

You say you want the kids, yet when you L offers the option to file “interim custody orders right away” – you elect to file for D.

I needed to file for D first. The interim custody orders would get the court involved in deciding the parenting plan for my kids. I still likely will be doing that. My L advised that it was best to wait a week or two for my W's response to the D papers first.

I totally understand that your L felt it was best to file for the D first. I get that. That is how YOUR L felt. Notice your L led you in a direction that worked for HER – NOT YOU per se.

The L is advising me what will be best to get ME what I want, not her. I asked my L her opinion of what would be best to ensure I have no less than half time with my kids and she advised based on that. My L is VERY CLEAR on what my goals are.