Need help saving my family - part 10

[ericmsant2]

Scorp

What I am about to say..err…write…I do for YOUR benefit.

You say you still love her and want to reconcile – yet your actions are to file for divorce.

You say you want the kids, yet when you L offers the option to file “interim custody orders right away” – you elect to file for D.

I totally understand that your L felt it was best to file for the D first. I get that. That is how YOUR L felt. Notice your L led you in a direction that worked for HER – NOT YOU per se.

You make excuses for your L “she has a lot of clients” – Let me ask you…. What excuse are you going to give your kids – when they ask why they cannot see you more often?

You said your L was going to serve her last week…..(FTR, another week without a parenting plan in place). Now it is between Friday and sometime early next week.

Then…..

Depending on my W's response there are further steps I can take with regard to my kids.

“depending on your W’s response……”

This to me means, you still do not have a plan for when you will get the kids. When they will be able to sleep in their bed, in their room.

Your W has already responded in term of “reasonable” as it relates to the kids. So what are you thinking that you are going to scare her into agreeing to send them back to the home that they KNOW?


When Drew asked you to look at what your wrote…your response is….

Drew,I don't think it's likely my situation is going to be figured out any time soon. I agree it's not likely that my W is going to change her approach with the custody issue.

You followed this ^^^^ up with….

At the least, my W will know that I am going to take action to back up what I've been saying for so long.

Honestly, dude, IF I were your W, I wouldn’t even be worried. You have been predictable and wavering the whole time. You have NOT stood up for yourself!

Regardless of what she may or may not think I am doing what I need to do for myself and my kids.

Really? What you need to do for yourself and your kids – really?

Sorry man, from where I sit (and FTR, what the f*ck do I know)…. You have NOT done what you needed to do for yourself NOR your kids. You have done what YOUR W wants. You have travel the path of least resistance. You’ve said, the kids are better off in your town, you’ve bi*ched about your MIL being unable to take care of the kids, your W listens to your phone calls with the kids – like you are some sort of perv. Really and you think you have stood up to her for YOUR KIDS?

If it were me, I would be on the phone with my L, expressing MY WISHES. Explaining that I want my kids back home NOW! Asking that every resource, every possibility be explore to get my kids home with DAD NOW. If it were me, I would have already packed up my chit, driven and gotten my kids. How my W felt would be irrelevant.

I am sorry man….your actions DO NOT MATCH your words in the least bit.


I hope and pray…that one day if your kids ask…..why dad…why didn’t you come get up more often…. That you have an answer. Cause if they are my kids…. “the law”, “the lawyers”, “your mom”…those excuses would not matter. They will grow up based on what they SEE. So what are they seeing Scorp7?

Are you showing them…that THEY matter? Are you showing them that THEY have a RIGHT to fight for what they believe in vs. RESPONDING to what is done to them.

This is your life dude…

This is just my opinion.