She has been 1:1 once before. Clearly, I go more frequently. I don't see the point in joint counseling at this point. There is no way she is going to open to the idea of owning her "stuff". She still blames me for things and limits her responsibility in the demise to "I allowed you to treat me that way".
I really don't want updates from her at all. For now, I want nothing from her except as much of her absence as I can manage to obtain. I told her it may not be that way for ever - but I just need to be away.
