I had decided we were DONE before I agreed for us to date others. She had pushed for that throughout our separation, and it had always been a dealbreaker for me, just morally. But once I had to file for divorce, and it looked like she wasn't going to end her affair and come back and try to work on the marriage, we separated into two homes and I decided to see someone socially from work. That was all it took to begin the re-attraction -- BAMMO! -- and we began slogging our way back thru several fits and starts.
Everyone has their own personal beliefs on this, and it's probably NOT DB'ing. I was only open to it because:
1. I had filed for divorce;
2. We had separated;
3. I TOLD her I was going to do it; and
4. She AGREED.
Had all four of those not been present, I doubt I personally would have done it.
And yeah . . . I did post a lot. And that was just as PUPPY DOG TAILS. I have another whole archive as Chocolateeyes, too, lol.
The key dates in my sitch are May - Aug 2007, if that helps you narrow it down. That was when my wife had her affair, and I filed for D, and all that awful rot.
And that was just as PUPPY DOG TAILS. I have another whole archive as Chocolateeyes, too, lol.
