I'm expecting the worst and hoping for the best. I believe I have a very good L so that's a start. I've got my parenting plan done up for any of the possible scenarios I'm asking for.
I do love my W, that's not going to change. It's not going to stop me from doing what I have to do for my kids.
I'm going out to see them on Friday and staying until Monday night. After that, they're coming home for 6 days. I'm going to keep pushing for more time with my kids.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
Not a chance I'll back down. Right or wrong, I did what I did up to now for my kids and I'm doing what I'm doing now for them as well. It may very well be case of things needing to get worse before they get better.
Despite all this mess with L's I'm still going to treat my W with love and respect.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
Latest message from my W I just received this afternoon: __________________________________________________________
Yes I will send everything to the work email address.
This weekend: Thanks for letting me know about your plans to pick up D6 after school.
I took S2 to see the doctor this morning. He has a strain of the stomach flu. If he is still not taking in any fluids by Friday I will have to take him to ER for dehydration - hopefully it won't get to that point. If it does, we may have to rethink his participation in the weekend. He really needs a lot of rest and ready access to the toilet and bathtub. I'm sure you will agree that taking him to The City may not be a good idea this weekend.
Gymnastics: its a long time to hang around the gym and there is not much room for watching - just a small viewing gallery upstairs with 3 or 4 windows to watch from. and it gets quite warm up there too. I took the girls separately and S2 stayed at home....would have been quite hard on him to stay there from 5:45 to 8:30 - there's not much for him to do, especially with him having the flu and recovery time. This place is nothing like the gymnastics club that was at the Arena in Our Old City.
My suggestion is maybe you can take D4 to her class @ 5:45 and we can pick up S2 right around then? D4 was super tired after her class. We can then pick up the girls at Coffee Shop at 8:45.
The doctor told me that the current strain of the flu that is going around right now is starting off with a runny nose, possible stomach cramps and then nasty stomach issues with vomiting and diarrhea. We really need to keep a close eye on the girls in the next bit...make sure they get lots of rest and drink lots of fluids.
Easter Break: 22nd to the 27th: We will be setting up D6's playdate/sleepover soon so as soon as I know for sure when it will be, I can let you know what time on Tuesday would work best for pickup (just in case she has it on Monday or something like that)
Do you know what your work holiday schedule is for summer yet? I need to have mine submitted by mid-May so if we could discuss the summer holidays, that would be great.
Are you ready to open discussions with regard to the house etc?
This is what I'm thinking of responding with tomorrow, or I suppose possibly even tonight: _________________________________________________________________
It sounds like S2 kept some jello down last night (tonight), that's very good to hear. If you could please let me know how he is doing today(tomorrow) I would really appreciate it. We will plan to take it very easy this weekend so we won't be going to The City. They all likely can use some rest.
I agree, picking S2 up at the start of D4's gymnastics class would be fine and then you can come to pick the girls up at 8:45 at The Coffee Shop.
I would like to pick the kids up before noon on the 22nd to make sure we aren't getting home too late.
I have been waiting since March 20th for your response on my last email on sharing time with our kids. Can you tell me your thoughts on that?
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
"I have been waiting since March 20th for your response on my last email on sharing time with our kids. Can you tell me your thoughts on that?"
She doesn't need reminding. Try this:
"I understand you would like to settle the house quickly. I feel that the kids are more important and I would like to agree on a parenting plan before we discuss other issues."
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
"I understand you would like to settle the house quickly. I feel that the kids are more important and I would like to agree on a parenting plan before we discuss other issues."
Other than scheduling issues with the kids type response, I like Barrybran suggestion. One it validates that you hear what she is saying…and also….communicates YOUR position.
As hard as it is…you need to start looking at HER ACTIONS…not HER WORDS. As Cat pointed out, she has already communicated her views via and attny.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I agree with Barry as well. The reason I was responding to her question about dealing with the house etc was simply to reiterate that I will not deal with the financial matters until we have a 50/50 parenting plan in place.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
