Yeah that makes sense. Once she makes her mind up about something its nearly impossible to change it and I'm terrified of that.
Well...again, my wife is the same way. I'm choosing to look at it like this: Her behavior means there still hope, but I'm not going to let it get my hopes up. More importantly, she can't know that I think it means there is still hope. No matter what private hopes I have, I'm approaching things as if we are both moving on...and acting "as if" as much as I need to that I'm ok with that. It seems counterintuitive to me--part of me thinks that will send her on her way even faster. But what I'm learning from this forum is that if there's anything that might make her question her decision, it's seeing that I'm not only am I ok with it, not only am I going to survive it, but that I will actually [b]thrive/b] despite it.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
