The two biggest 180's I could make (based on what I now know are her 2 biggest complaints) would be to 1) Take her out once a week, anywhere, with me planning it; and 2) Being willing to accompany her places without her having to convince me...that is, going willingly instead of essentially having to be begged.
Because she is a WAW, #2 is out right now...I don't think I'll be getting any invites any time soon. #1 is within my control, but doesn't seem to align with DBing... the whole "no pursuit" thing. But, I was thinking maybe a work around...a good 180 for both myself and potentially for "us", would be to extend an invite to her to go out along the lines of "I'm planning on ________ and would love for you to join me, but if you prefer not to I'm still going to go and will ask _____ instead." This would actually be a double 180 because another complaint of hers is that I've neglected my friendships, and I need to remedy that no matter what (which makes for some good GAL as well!). Any vets care to weigh in on that?
Speaking of GAL, I heard back from an old buddy of mine, so while W is at her concert with her friend on Saturday I'm sending the kids to the in-laws for the night and I'm going to go hang out with him. W was super-pleased to hear about that.
So, as of now nothing has changed W's feelings about the D, but I have been being Super Dad, working out regularly, picking up all the slack around the house, not questioning where W goes or what she does, continuing her LL "acts of service", and being 100% positive at all times...and I know it's been noticed.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
