hope456--my story

[Upwards]

It's hard to get your head around because we aren't in the mindset of a WAS, it makes no sense to us why they do what they are doing & the more you try to understand it the more confused you'll become because your spouse probably can't explain their reasons themselves - my H has talked throughout all if this (a lot don't) and he can't explain it himself & will openly admit that it's crazy and makes no sense!

The fact is, walking away is what they have chosen & right now that is their only option (in their head) and unfortunately NOTHING that you do or say will change that, pressure from you will likely just reinforce it. You are not responsible for your S, you can't control them but you can control yourself & your life.

How much time are you spending thinking about your S, M, situation in comparison to how long your spending thinking about YOUR needs, YOUR wants & YOUR feelings?!