hope456--my story

[Upwards]

I wanted things to be different too, I kept wishing things could be different somehow & thinking how I'd do anything for my family to be back together... That was before I examined our R properly & realised how unhealthy it had become, how unhappy I was too (I was just in denial!) and now I can honestly say I would not go back to that under any circumstances.

To make things different, WE have to change too! That's why GAL & working on YOU is so crucial, you need to work on becoming the best you!

The whole "I'm not in love with you" and " people grow apart" thing us the WAS justification for what they're doing, it hides their guilt because the action they're taking is justified (in their eyes).

You need to work on detachment & accepting that NOTHING you do now will make your H magically realise he's made a mistake, if that's going to happen it will be in his own time when HE'S ready - frustrating I know! You can't speed up what's going on for him but you can slow it down by not giving him space to figure it out for himself.