She's not interested in spending quality together right now
You're absolutely right, I was suggesting the book because it helps to understand what went wrong between both of you (it wasn't all just you) and how to do things differently in the future whether that's with your W or with someone new. There are LL techniques in the book that you can use on a WAS but yes, you have to be careful because the WAS views much of it as "too late for that".
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despite the great "date" we had this past weekend (at her suggestion...I think she suggested we go out as an opportunity to talk without the kids around, but we ended up having a great time together).
Good! Things like this don't "fix" your sitch, but they pave the way to future reconciliation. Like 25 says- keep the way home paved and smooth. You can't get a tow truck, hook it to her and drag her home, but if you keep the way home smooth then perhaps some day she'll choose to make that drive
