First I had to "let go" of my marraige as it was, I found this very hard & couldn't understand why people were telling me I needed to do this when all I could think about was saving my marriage. I did some real deep soul searching and examination of our relationship in the past 12 months and realised how unhealthy it had become & how unhappy we both were, when I accepted that I knew that the only way forward would be to build a completely NEW relationship with my H or the dreaded D.
I think as I was going through the "letting go" process I began to have days where I was fine, better than just fine I was actually enjoying life again at times, even though I was still having "bad" days I knew in my heart that I would truly be ok regardless of whether my M ended in divorce or we work things out - prior to this I said I was ok no matter what happened but I didnt fully believe it.
I have hope that i'll have the opportunity to rebuild a new relationship with my H at some point in the future & that we can both be happy together again but I have no expectations in the short term. I take each day as it comes, dont expect anything and just enjoy the positives and try to remain detached from the negatives.
How you doing with detachment?
Divorce Final: Oct 2014
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