hope456--my story

[Bunches]

I'd say separating hope and expectations can only happen when we get to that point where we can decisively say we choose to work things out without making any plans or designs on how the other person might 'get there'.

I think you can only do this when you realize you will be fine with or without your Spouse. You have to be enough for your own happiness in life alone but know that you would choose to spend that life with that person if given that choice. This just takes it back to not having dependancy.