We have a firm schedule. The divorce agreement requires it. Every day for the entire year is assigned and agreed to. It even includes firm times and locations for exchanges.
Of course, my X can't be constrained by something as restrictive as a legally binding, fully documented schedule. If it conflicts with her plans, she feels entitled to change it without regard to what I think. Hence the source of the conflict.
I have established a long running precedent of giving in to her demands. When I try to push back, I get threats. I just need to accept the conflict for now, assert my rights and start a new habit.
So, she called on Sat. morning, and talked to D14. D14 gave me a lecture about how I was being unreasonable, mom was going to pay her to babysit and she wanted the money. I told her I made my decision and she was not going. She got moody and stormed off to her room.
My ex then called and lectured me about how unreasonable I was being and demanded that I let her go. I told her no. I made it clear that in the future she needs to discuss these things with me before involving D14, and if she continues to make plans on my days without my input, then the answer will always be no.
Then she threatened me that if I don't let her go, she will make me pay. Specifically, I have had plans for over 6 months to take D14 to the "We will rock you" musical Sunday night. Since that is her night, she will not let D14 go. I said "OK" and she hung up on me.
Sunday night she called to ask when I was dropping off the kids. I told her I wasn't. It was 5:30. The custody agreement states that she needs to pick up the kids @ 5:00 and I had been doing her a favor by dropping the kids off at her work. I told her that she needs to leave work, and come and pick them up. I also told her that she was in violation of the divorce agreement and that if she wasn't there by the time we needed to leave for the show, that I would take D14 with me. She texted back "Just take her".
