1. Treat H like friend. Win back H by winning back friendship first. 2. Do not call H at work. Give H space...stop pursuit, get h to call me. 3. Go to AA. Stay sober. 4. Go to counseling this Friday. work on own issues and ask if counselor knows how to facilitate solution based therapy. 5. Go to church. keep conscious contact with God and keep social contact with healthy religious folks. 6. Go to bible study. keep conscious contact with God and keep social contact with healthy religious folks. 7. Make arrangements to go to treatment. stay sober work on deeper issues relapse prevention 8. Continue to take meds. keep chemical imbalance at bay 9. Continue to take care of self and son. feel better about self and have fun with son 10. Work on Writing. feel better about self, focus on something other than H, make money
As a result of sticking to all of these goals, my husband will return home by no later than May. We will begin to see changes for the better in our relationship and I will not backslide again. I will work on keeping love alive rather than fall back into the danger zone that I am in now. We will not get a dissolutionment. We will not get a divorce.
