I saw my H tonight for the first time in a week. He came over around bedtime to say goodnight to D7 and give her some gifts he bought for her while on his trip. She was very excited to see him! He came into the house and gave her a hug and then suggested a "family hug," which is usually something D7 suggests. I walked out of the room to get something ready for D7's bedtime and he followed me down the hall and asked me for another hug. While D7 was getting ready for bed, H sat down and talked to me about his trip. He filled me in on everything that's going on with our nieces and nephews and how much they've grown. The conversation got kind of heavy, but it wasn't R-related at all. His grandmother is in poor health and there is some family drama. I listened and validated. In this case, it was really easy to do since they've been my family, too, for the last 14 years. He tucked D7 in, gave me another hug, and left. He said he was really tired and needed to go to sleep. As he was walking out the door, he suggested we have a family dinner tomorrow night. He didn't offer anything specific, so I'll wait until tomorrow to see if he brings it up again.
I did not bring up D7's disappointment over him not answering her calls. It didn't feel right to do it after our conversation about his grandmother and the funeral. It seemed like that would have been inconsiderate of H's feelings.
