Hi rednet. Sorry you find yourself here, but you'll find it's a great place to get support and advice.
First, have you read DB or DR? You really need to read at least one of them to understand the advice that's given to you on this site. Most of the users on this site will advise you against MC. Once a WAS is "done" it usually just makes the situation worse. I can tell you that my H and I went through this 7 years ago and it was MC that finally drove him to the point of wanting a separation, so I didn't push the issue this time around.
Can you share more details of your situation? How long have you been married? Ages? Kids? That sort of information will help others give you advice on your particular situation.
