TL72 - Thanks for your post. That's a great idea about the rubber band on the wrist, or something like it! My meditation classes have been helping a little with that; every time you find your mind is NOT in the present moment, where YOU are right now, switch it back. Get it out of the past, and out of the future, and especially out of my own snowballing, anxiety-producing, thoughts about OW! Yes, Facebook is evil in that way. Just makes things worse.
I got used to living alone (no kids and no pets, although I'm seriously contemplating a dog) about 3 or 4 months after he moved out, so now it's not too bad most days. Have friends nearby always willing to come by or have me over. Hardest part was Sunday nights, eating dinner alone sometimes. Now, I mostly eat quick and then get into doing something else. I put away pictures and stuff a few months ago. I was doing really great at 6 or 7 months, and then I found out about OW. Set me back a couple of months at least. Still trying to recover from the shock of digging up photos online. Ugh. THAT was a bad day. Yes, trying really hard to let go. Another 'talk' tomorrow night -- his suggestion this time. Highly unusual. This will not be good, I think. Will report back once I gather my thoughts afterward. Praying -- for us all on this board.
Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15