Separate and Filed walking on

[paul19510]

Wonka and ye21.thank you both for your continued support and for taking time to help me. Do I want to be divorced? No. Do I wanted to live with or legally tied to a W who is spending far more than we can afford and speaks about one of our children in ways that is harmful? No.

What I want..what I have always wanted is to be in a healthy, loving M. Continuing to stay legally tied to someone who is concerned more about our finances and her own interests is not safe for me or my kids.

Would you allow a drug addict to live in your home or continue to have uninterrupted access to you finances to by drugs? Even if they refuse to quit or to seek help for the I issues. Would you allow that person to be emotionally abusive to family members?

From what I can tell I believe that's what I have on my hands. Its not drugs but other things she is addicted to and she has no intention of stopping. She shows no signs of truly caring about the impact of her actions. I must protect myself and my kids. That is now my only concern.

If my W recanted her actions and went to try and fix what's happened, I might pause and see what chances we had or what might occur. I have not seen any signs of that. It makes me sad. I love being a husband and father. She threw that away.