Everyone seems to be taking a very doom and gloom stance right now in regards to your sitch...
Please know no one wants it to be hard for you or ugly, but they do want you to be prepared for the worst...
When you hang around here for a while, you learn that things you really never imagined are far more common than you thought.
I was the LBS. I didn't want the D. That being said...
As a mother, I was prepared to get ugly. I was prepared to sling mud if my X tried to make it difficult. And I had the mud to sling...
I felt a little silly preparing for the worst because I believed with my whole heart that my X would not do anything to hurt our S.
One day, he made the threat that burst that bubble that he was going to try to take our child. And I was glad that I was ready. In my sitch, all I had to do was let him know that it would be a battle like he had never seen and he became much more reasonable.
Not everyone is that lucky.
Right now you are not dealing with your "best friend" or even the woman you knew as your W.
You are dealing with a stranger. And a mother.
Scorp, it is time for you to separate the business side of this relationship from your emotions.
Listen to what everyone is trying to tell you.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
