Meeting for "THE TALK" tonight

[mleigh4]

Job- I only pay my rent right now, my H is paying mtg on house and giving me some money each month because living in apt is more expensive for me than living at home and I told him so. He was more than happy to pay me to live elsewhere

Peace - before I moved out, I checked with a lawyer over the phone, a service provided by my company, and was told that as long as my name is on deed, I have same rights to home as H. So even if I moved out, I would have all rights to move back home. However, I called a local attorney last week, and he was telling me my H could possibly fight that since I moved out. Scary thought.

At this point, I have lost so much respect for H, D doesn't worry me so much. If I stay in apt, not only will I be stuck in another lease, but H could drag this out forever. I still stand firm on if he wants D, he can do the work. So, my heart and gut tell me the logical thing to do here is move back home. I can't afford to buy H out, but with proper child support, could afford the monthly mtg on my own, if he decides to move out. As far as selling the house, that is my H idea, which is a bad idea in that the house address keeps my son in his school. In mediation, I would hope to work something out to stay there as long as possible.

So, decision made, with full support of family and friends. Time for H to have his life disrupted, time for S and I to go home! And yes, I am setting up counseling for S. we will get through whatever H throws at us.

Thank you for helping me to work through this!