Its beginning to dawn on me how significant our meeting was as it more or less confirms the end of our marriage and that frightens me.
The marriage was really over at BD. The DB'ing journey is not an effort to get your M back, you've got to put it in the rearview mirror. Work on yourself, become the spouse only a fool would leave. Do it without your W. Give your W time and space (and lots of it) to sort through her issues. Eventually your paths may cross again and you can build a new R and M with her.
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I just want her to snap out of this madness and return to her normal self
I've been on these forums a while and have read threads dating back many more years than I've been here. I have yet to read a single example of a WAS snapping out of it like that. It took her months or even years to get to the point she is at now and it'll take at least that long for her to think about you as someone she could love again. You have to take a long-term view, there are no quick fixes.
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She told me yesterday that she was relieved after our meeting as she has been wanting me to let her go and move on.
That is actually a good sign, if she feels relieved then it means she feels the pressure lifting. Often when the LBS eases off the pressure then the WAS quits pursuing D.
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I am trying to stay positive but its hard and I can only hope that my counselling tomorrow night helps to get me through this really bad spell...
You are very early in your sitch, don't expect too much of yourself too soon. It takes a long time to heal from this. Be patient with yourself and don't feel guilty about going through a bad spell, it is totally NORMAL, we've all been through very dark times in our sitches.
