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Bright,
Actually what you have been describing isn't that hard to understand. Many parents are not "hands on" and then as they become seniors they are expecting their children to come forward and take care of them. May I ask if this is the general way of thinking in the area where they live? Is this the way that their parents did things w/them?

I do understand very well how you feel and yes, as they age, they do tend to become more like children and want us to be there for them. I think a lot of that is the fear of getting older and something happening to them when they are alone, but your parents sound like they are doing okay thus far. I realize your father has been under the weather. Your parents can't accept or won't accept what you've said to them because they didn't think that they had done anything wrong.

If they do end up w/you, I would suggest that you look into some adult day care activities for them and get some assistance whereby someone comes to the home and stays w/them so that you can have some time to yourself. You have enough on your plate right now w/your h traveling the world and your job search. Also, you will need to set some boundaries w/them and adhere to them.

If your marriage was over, you would have gotten some kind of sign from him. I honestly don't think he's given it any thought and is comfortable in his little space shuttle floating around earth right now. You may, at some point, have to have a conversation w/him just to see where his head is at right now...but you'll know when the time is right for that.

Trust in the man upstairs...sit quietly, the answers will come.