Separate and Filed walking on

[paul19510]

I got the following from my W today after virtually NC over the past week regarding the pending D. My comments are in parenthesis.


H,

A few things

1. I think neither of us are financially able to follow through with the divorce right now (I'm fine. My income would allow me to continue raising the kids and planning for a future as a middle class family just as I do today with some restrictions...but no horses...not my thing anyway) I think it would be best for right now that we live separate and both continue to contribute to the household bills. That being said I think we should put the attorney activity on hold. If you feel that you want to date and go out I am not stopping you. (I want to vomit). I just think it is a wise decision right now until we can get more stable in our finances and other things.

2. The church is looking at other options for a cleaning service I will keep you posted if I hear more.

3. Several people have told me that D16 was driving a person's truck while still on her permit. The guy's name was X and he was somewhat intoxicated so she drove the truck on her permit. I don't think that was right but have no say anymore. (this person is over 21, rarely if ever drinks and has a CDL that he uses to earn a living....what's being described is completely out of character with the person I know).

4. I have also found out that D16 has in the past "been sexually active" with several men. Again that concerns me but have limited say. (when anything was brought up about this in past I came down hard and asked to have W schedule a GYN visit as well to ensure D16 was ok...she declined).

5. I will be at the house on Saturday morning D13 and I will be going through the horse stuff to see what we want to get rid of.

Just FYI

W

I am saddened by this message. It implies that I would wish to live in an "open M" and its insulting and derogatory to D16 (again). For people that know me and my values I would never choose to live in an "open M".

I am not responding to this message at the moment and not sure I ever will, but I do wonder...is there really a response other than silence from me?