Hey sweetheart! I'm back for a few minutes anyway!
his actions are not matching his words..
Doesn't seem so, does it? There seems to be a lot of pain, and a lot of confusion, coming from both sides.
Hang tight for just a bit, and try not to make any decisions right now, or force him into any decisions. Put off any thoughts of the D, or trying to convince him against the D right now. There seems to be some pretty raw emotions coming from both of you that need to settle first.
For now, make "yourself" your priority. Go back to the goals you set earlier for yourself, and really focus on them for the next week or two.
In fact, I'm not sure that I would suggest even writing a Dobson type letter yet. It's a really tough thing to do, very gut-wrenching, and it may not be the best thing for your spirits right now.
Besides, I don't see you as being at the point of having to do this yet! I think you still have a long way to go yet before you can write him off!
Give your counseling a week or two, and see where you want to go from there. It's often hard to see any hope when your in the middle of the situation, but I think that when you are able to take a step or two back from it for a little bit, things will look different to you.
Gotta run, but will be back later. Hang in there, and {{{{BIG HUGS}}}} to you!!
JJ
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