It may be harmless to him, the more important question: Is it harmless to you?

Your H doesn't have that answer, only you do.

You're right, you can't control him but you can control you.

What is your actual boundary around the contact issue? Did you tell him the boundary?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss