Just because he says you're controlling doesn't mean it's always true.

Why did you ask him to help organize your kitchen? Because of the language barrier?

If that's the case, I would ask someone else or attempt to do it myself.

If he doesn't like it, it's your kitchen, he doesn't have to like it.

About the control issue, we often don't do it consciously. Slowing down, examining motives, asking yourself "why am I asking/saying that?", letting go of outcomes allows us to see our patterns and begin to change them.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss