"She told me she cried in the meeting because of the look on my face. How can she not be in love,with me and cry cry for me at the same time?"
Because she's not "in love". She has "love" for you, but feels "in love" with someone else. Somewhere inside she knows it's not right, but it is what she feels- and all she will go with is emotions. She may also be feeling guilty because getting what she wants (someone else) means hurting you and the family. This will not stop anytime soon either, so back your bags for the long trip.
So what do,I do with the fact she is moving back. So I 180 her, do I do,things with her if she wants too? This is where I am stuck.
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So what do,I do with the fact she is moving back. So I 180 her, do I do,things with her if she wants too? This is where I am stuck.
GAL and pay zero attention to the fact she is coming back, you just take care of yourself and read DR. Oh and pne advice, add aerobic exercise and go for a running today, you need to make yourself tired so your anxiety level comes down.
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
[quote=ye21]So what do,I do with the fact she is moving back. So I 180 her, do I do,things with her if she wants too? This is where I am stuck.
GAL and pay zero attention to the fact she is coming back, you just take care of yourself and read DR. Oh and pne advice, add aerobic exercise and go for a running today, you need to make yourself tired so your anxiety level comes down. [/quote]
Thanks I did aerobics today and have a big work day ahead of me.
Your also working with an anxious person here to begin with.
Thanks I am glad your on my thread
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Get A Life, it means get hobbies, go out and meet people, exercise etc. This will take your mind of your sitch, show you there is a life outside of the hell you're in and makes you a more interesting person to your S.
Get A Life, it means get hobbies, go out and meet people, exercise etc. This will take your mind of your sitch, show you there is a life outside of the hell you're in and makes you a more interesting person to your S.
boy am I dumb...
She used to say that I needed more hobbies than her..
Thing is we would workout together, run together, fish together etc...I do need to find stuff to keep me away, especially on the weekends when she moves home and he's not here. She will probably try to,see his friends in the city etc, but that will only occupy so much time...
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So when do you plan to read DB or DR? It explains in detail GAL. The things that we suggest to you won't mean anything unless you actually do some work on your own. There are no shortcuts.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I am going to download DR tonight and start reading...
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