looking for help in The Netherlands

[expatNL]

Any DB advice on what to do at the mediators tomorrow?
a) should I roll over and agree to whatever my WAW asks for?
path of least confrontation .

b) Should I say no to everything?

c) Should I state that this is just to clarify the current situation so that the children are assured that I will still pay
for the roof over their heads in the family home.

d) refuse to discuss divorce?

e) accelerate it and agree to the divorce and what ever my wife wants? This is seems to be what I am being told by the "help" I am receiving from the Dutch Social services and psychologists.