It seems to take a long time for most to get through it
It is caused by unresolved childhood issues
For the first few years, it may be worth it to stand because it gives everyone time to adjust and heal sometimes standing can create a cordial R between LBS and MLcer
We learn to detach, let go and heal ourselves
We learn to live and let Mlcer live as he chooses
Its a gamble but I don't think many LBS regret standing for a time
We will know when its time to stop and move on
WE will know if the MLCer seems to be taking a turn to come back and we will know when its time to file if they don't
It all takes time to figure out but for now there is not much you can do except take care of your self and watch the finances carefully
Know your rights just in case
peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow