See my point was that you still have control issues and it shows. You have these "expectations" that you seem to have on things, even in a FREE forum.
Case in point...
"Also realize that today was a big important day for me and I was a wreck last night. Just give me that,"
That line alone is similar to your "well I did this, BUT SHE DID THIS!" mentality. A little humility would serve you well. Also, usually on the weekends there aren't many people posting.
As for your conversation with your W. You did a good job in terms of laying down your boundaries. One thing you should work on though is releasing your resentment towards your W. That is something that you haven't seemed to work out yet and it bubbles up alot.
Thank you for pointing out the resentment side. I think that was one of our marital issues always blaming the,other...man my family were experts,at that.
I agree I had control issues. I can tell you that what my wife needed to see and understand was that I worshiped her, I put her on a pedestal and felt she was the best thing that ever happened to me. I had a hard childhood, and I think I tried to control the one thing that I truly card about my family. The. The fact that her mother had affairs pulled at my psyche...and what did I do ....I lost my wife...
Just realize I am trying to break her grip on me. I really do love her and am willing to let her to for her own happiness.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
