There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with your getting help for yourself...in fact, it's imperative that you do....
My remark stems from the impression that you are not working outside the home and that it's your H's insurance, through his employer, that you'll be using to avail yourself of those services. Since your H had just told you that he will be taking you off his insurance should you D, I should think that DISCUSSING the use of his insurance might have been a good move especially since it gives him an opportunity to HEAR your dedication to get yourself together AS WELL AS give HIM an opportunity to tell you that he prefer you didn't use it. He obviously HAS an issue with the use of the insurance and YOU just chose to shrug your shoulders at that fact.
As for the "appraisal" you can either VALIDATE what he says, say NOTHING in response to a statement he makes that you don't care to hear...OR you can continue to counter his statements with YOUR position...reminding him that he said something DIFFERENT in the past (the deck/garage thing) will do nothing accept tick him off and make him regret ever having said he'd do that, considering where HIS head is right now. T2
