The default schedule is outlined ahead of time. So in the example that I posted BOTH parents have flexibility and BOTH parents have to agree. The default, would be a 50/50 split.
Originally Posted By: Melissa
Scorp's W is not cooperative.
She is not cooperative NOW...but no one know how she will be in the future. She could be a nightmare like my ex or she could be pleasant. The flexible plan with default works in both cases and avoids having to go back to court.
FTR, my default is Wed, Thur and every other Fri, Sat and Sun. For the most part we follow the default.
Originally Posted By: melissa
Also, I would keep child support and parenting time completely separate. Don't even mention them in the same conversation. Do not offer to pay her more or less or the same, just leave it to your attorney to figure out. JMO.
The point I was trying to make was under the assumption that since Scorp makes more than his W he may be required to pay her alimony. If this was the case, then he could decide to pay a little more in child support and less in alimony (tax advantage for her) in order to get this done quickly.
At the end of the day, everyone has to do what works for them. My experience has been that it will not be everything that scorp wants not everything his W wants. He may find if he is willing to give a little he will save a ton in legal fees over the long run.
Originally Posted By: Scorp7
I likely should have my L communicate to my W, or maybe I should do it myself, that I will pay her the same amount of support regardless.
I would not communicate with your W about this at ALL. You need to be on the same page with your L. She will tell you what your options are and what she thinks is fair. At the end of the day, most of the times (not all) the two L's can work with both side to reach an agreement. So to repeat, I am not saying that you should hand over the house. No. I am saying that if is gonna cost you 20K to fight in order to save 100 bucks a month...that if you do the math, how long would it take you to see a benefit.
Glad to see that you are feeling better.
Even if it is two steps forward and one step back...it is at least one step forward.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
