Eric, because of the major difference in my income versus my W's I will be paying her child support, although reduced somewhat, even if we have 50/50. The only way I wouldn't have to pay is if the kids were with me more than 60% of the time.
Child support is for your kids. I was not suggesting that you try and lower the support numbers nor should you ask for more time with the kids to reduce the support. You should though try and find a way to ensure that the funds that go to your W for the kids…is going towards the kids.
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I suspect my W is having the same issue as your ex as far as letting go of control. I understand, it would be very hard for her to not have the kids with her half the time even though right now due to her new job she isn't the primary care giver, my MIL is. The main issue is control so given time she may get used to the idea. If not then the court will decide.
Ideally you DO NOT want the court to decide. Hence the flexible plan approach I suggested. It gives your W the financial security that she probably feels she needs AND grants you NO LESS than 50/50 quality time with your kids.
On a personal note, how are things with your otherwise? What are you doing to keep your spirits up and your sanity intact?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
