How do you do THIS part...

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My lawyer also suggested that I could give STBXW primary, but have her presumptive right to relocate and legal making decisions stricken out on the divorce decree, essentially making it "joint custody".

Does your L feel like primary could not be with you? What do think is best for the kids?

I am seeking distraction from it. I realize that is the main force driving me to date, the desire to replace what I once had. I just really miss the company of my wife, (or a someone close), to spend time with. I know that is not necessarily a good thing. I need to work on ways to get around that and be happy by myself.....

So if you know it is a distraction and know that you need to find a way to be happy by yourself….why do you continue to try and date?

Here is an exercise…..

Write down 10 things that you really would like to do in the next 24 months. They could be small, large, medium size….it could be anything that would make you happy.