I was in the same place as you and started pushing XW to proceed with the D. It got to the point where I insisted that she get the decree to me, and she finally did. I think if I hadn't pushed for it the M would still be in limbo, but I kept prodding right up to getting the court date assigned. I can honestly tell you that getting D'd has been liberating, I felt pretty detached before but I feel FREE now! I am so glad it's over, and so glad I don't have to worry about another shoe dropping (W has always had CC debt problems). A lot of people around here make D sound like a death sentence, but it can be a really positive experience! Probably not the best thing to say on a DB'ing forum, LOL! But I think people should know that if they end up with a D despite their best DB'ing efforts, that is not necessarily a bad thing. And it's not necessarily the end either, a lot of couples reconcile even after D. Who knows what the future holds. But I'm living my life in the here and now and loving it
