Your husband's quote that he ""never wanted to go down that road again" echoes my husband's "I never want to live with you again"... so we have our work cut out.
I am still married to H, but we got legally separated yesterday (it was bizarrely pleasant - read about it on my thread), while you still have H around, but he is threatening D.
Your earlier list of plans sounded fine, it really is a matter of sticking to them!
The thing that shouts out from all your posts is that you need to pull back from H at this time. Do not ask him ANY R questions at all, DO NOT explain that you are doing something for him, I would say, DO NOT even give him gifts.
When someone feels the way your H does, even getting gifts just makes you madder and meaner! A while back I posted about how someone was pursuing me, was maddeningly insistent, and it is SUCH A TURN OFF when it is not wanted. Now that he hasn't called in a while, I am softening. I don't want to see him (only met him a few months ago), but I feel bad about hurting someone.
Your husband will think about you more, the more you back off him! He will also think about you more fondly!
Just try it the next two weeks!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
