Her primary LL is QT and her secondary LL is PT. Being that QT is the primary, it is hard to fulfill while S. Now, PT through the massages she lets me do seem to allow for some calm conversation, which I guess accounts for QT, right? I gotta say that sometimes she is quiet while I am massaging her.
I'm going to be very candid with you. The LL book is an eye opener for most of us, and works well in a M that is not already headed for a D. But when you have a WAW........and separated, I believe a lot of those LL suggested could be very pursuing in her eyes. B/c it goes along with what Another Stander said about how a LBH can't seem to win with a WAW. Not only can you do nothing right to win her approval.......but she does NOT want any form of love in any language, whatsoever, from her LBH. One thing that can really backfire is when a man doesn't know how to validate or use the LL correctly.......and she sees it as you kissing up. It really is a turn-off!
I don't how I missed you were S, when I sent my last post, but I did. Therefore, you have to be even more cautious about showing any PT. I would not offer to hug her at all, unless she makes the move first. Start with just a light pat on her back when you or she starts to leave. See how she receives it.
One thing H's need to understand is those things she wanted you to in past years........is not what she wants to see now. So, do what you need to do to improve as a man, but don't do it simply b/c she once wanted it. She will tell you it is too late.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
