Wife is Continuing Affair- When do I start LRT

[Devaste]

Little update, thought my weekend was going pretty well , had a busy day with the kids on Sat, and spent the day shuffling around . W left the house after bringing D back to house, and then said she was meeting up with her girlfriend, was it ok if she wasn't available till Sunday AM, and I could take Sunday afternoon . I agreed, as our weekends are usually split depending on activities.

Everything was fine until the next day when my sister called me and told me she saw my W picking up OM the night before. That set me off, a bit of despair and frustration. Some mind reading on my part. It had seemed to me like contact had stopped or changed. She had even started a conversation about how she needs to feel better about her parenting and self before she is able to come back. I validated her, but made no response to indicate her coming back or anything like that was a possibility. Not sure if she was trying to check where I was at or not. We have previously discussed those conditions, and I haven't brought them up for a few months.

I had sent a text that evening regarding discussing kids schedule the next day . She said she didn't want to talk at that time. Now I know why . The next AM when she showed up, she asked if the kids could sleep over that night.

While I'm not adverse to it, as long as I know they are safe, I had changed my plans, and didn't appreciate that she wouldn't discuss it the night before. Long story short (not really ) , when my sister told me on Sunday what she saw the night before, I understood what happened. W had a crying fit saying I was mean etc when I said I'm not adverse to it, I just need more than 10 hours notice

Ultimately, I was wrong for thinking maybe she was coming around. Anytime I see or think there is progress, she runs to the OM. Has to be something there psychologically for her, but I need to not worry about her

Today and yesterday were better. I was out with a friend, and worked out. GAL continues

Thanks

Dev