Wife in MLC and getting ready to go!

[ericmsant2]

Matt

A week later she had texted her dad and deleted her side but I was able to figure out she was telling him she opened her own back account. He told her she needed to change her passwords on email and computer as well so I wouldn't find out. I had already seen an email from the bank welcoming her as a new account holder and set it up so she wouldn't get anything in the mail to our home. This is WAY not like her.

If possible, you want to keep an eye on finances. “WAY not like her”…may end up being an understatement – I hope that is not the case.

Have you read all of the material that Cadet posted?

I would like to be back to making the kind of money I was until the co I worked for closed.

How do you see that happening? What can YOU do to make this a reality for YOU?

I want to keep my youngest in private school for her last 4 years (something that was important to my wife until she said she wanted a divorce. Now she says she is "better off" in public school in the area she wants to live by herself in).

Sounds reasonable to me. Do you have a plan for how you can try and ensure that this happens? Maybe start putting money into an account for her education. As for your W comments….typical MLC behavior. Ignore her responses. Right now, your W is probably more focused on HERSELF than anyone else.

I want to have friends that I can do fun things with and a special person to share my life with.

Define what a good friend is to YOU? Do any of your current friends meet this criteria? Have you considered joining more meet up groups? What kind of hobbies do YOU have?

I reacted badly when she dropped the bomb.

Everybody usually reacts badly. It happened in the past ….so let it go.

Her value about marriage was something that if she had felt different about, I wouldn't have married her in the first place.

As hard as it is…separate HER ACTIONS from HER the PERSON. Her actions right now s*ck. Clearly she has changed…and so have you. Chances are you BOTH no longer the same person you were went you first met. You have no control over her and she has no control over YOU.

I always vowed never to marry someone who thought that divorce was an option and never wanted to go through that horror!

You are not divorced YET…..so keep a positive attitude (and yeah I know it is hard too). The more you THINK you are going to be divorced, the likely hood that you will.

So, what do you think were some of YOUR issues in the M? What thinks you wished you could have done differently?