I really like the suggestion about negotiating for no primary residence. My lawyer also suggested that I could give STBXW primary, but have her presumptive right to relocate and legal making decisions stricken out on the divorce decree, essentially making it "joint custody". Washington is goofy in that regard, by not having an option for joint. I don't get it.
Loneliness is a real issue for me. I am struggling with that so badly. I think I have had plenty of time to "reflect", and now it is somewhat holding me back. I have been focusing a lot on what I had and what I lost since BD. It's not good for me anymore, so now I am seeking distraction from it. I realize that is the main force driving me to date, the desire to replace what I once had. I just really miss the company of my wife, (or a someone close), to spend time with. I know that is not necessarily a good thing. I need to work on ways to get around that and be happy by myself.....I did just install new tires on my motorcycle. I guess that's a start!
